Be bold. If you’re going to make an error, make a doozy, and don’t be afraid to hit the ball. Billie Jean King
Life has its ups and downs. Keep on swinging. Hank Aaron
The Old Ways Won’t Cut It
Friends, family and coaching clients tell me they will not be returning to business as usual when life becomes “more normal.” I’m hearing that the virus has brought about a change in their values, and the old ways won’t cut it.
If you want to reinvent yourself and find out what’s next, start by looking at where you are today. Allow yourself time to reflect on the following questions:
- When do you feel most “at home”? Most like yourself? Most alive?
- Who are you with when you feel most like yourself? (Perhaps you are alone in nature.)
- Where are you?
- What are you most proud of?
- What do you no longer enjoy?
- What do you want to learn?
What’s the Nagging Question?
When I was laid off from my corporate job, I thought about what I most wanted to learn and explore. I wanted to spend time in my neglected garden, but I didn’t know how to proceed. I took classes to become a Master Gardener. I met 30 classmates, many of whom became good friends. We are the same age and share similar passions. Later, I began to remember the jazz music my father played when I was young. Those memories helped open another world of music and dancing.
In future blogs, we’ll create a vision for the future and explore ways to get there.
Covid-19, our modern plague, is tragic; but there is an upside for many of us.
Because I have some financial security from social security income, I ‘m able to step back and see over 30 benefits from the pandemic. I hope this list helps you feel more positive.
Our Collective Experience
- Globally we are all in this together. There’s shared humanity
- World-wide there’s a greater appreciation for front-line workers, teachers, healthcare providers
- We have global cooperation to find a vaccine
- More volunteerism
- Younger people are feeling inspired to create change
- Underlying inequities in our society have been exposed – in finances, education and healthcare
- We had time to watch and reflect on George Floyd’s death – and react
- There’s increased focus on how to solve the inequities
Impact on Nature
- By staying at home, we have created less air pollution. The earth will have a 7% decrease in carbon dioxide this year
- Nature has begun to heal
- Plants are healthier
- Animals are more abundant
- The birds are happy
- As a society, slowing down has made us kinder
- We’ve had a chance to refocus on what really matters
- We learned that when working from home many of us are more productive
- Zoom works well for meetings and gatherings of all kinds and for small group learning
- We’ve seen an upsurge in new music. There’s the Rolling Stones’ “Living in a Ghost Town,” plus 5000 songs on the Spotify virus playlist
- We have greater appreciation for “normal,” such as haircuts, eating out, travel
The Personal Impact
- Feeling humility in the face of fragility
- Becoming more patient. With the uncertainty, I’m learning to take things day by day
- Feeling more relaxed. Reduced traffic makes driving less stressful
- There’s less pressure – no longer over-scheduling every day
- Appreciating the quiet and listening to the birds
- Time to be one on one with friends via zoom, phone calls or walks
- Getting to better know my neighbors and their children
- Time to paint, practice the guitar, bicycle, hike, clean the house, cook, garden, and read
- Finding new TV shows
- Watching “Conversations with Authors” from Book Passage
- Thanks to Zoom, taking online classes – yoga, Pilates, sketching, guitar, and gardening
- Finding new local hikes and bike rides. Exploring local neighborhoods
- Making new hiking and biking friends
- Saving money – no gym dues and reduced restaurant expenses
A Huge Change, But Not All Bad
It’s true our world will never be the same. So, when you feel discouraged, please refer to this list. I hope it helps.
Note: I’m eager to hear your thoughts. What would you add to the list?